The holiday season, a time of celebration and togetherness, can also be emotionally challenging for those grieving the loss of a loved one.
“One thing you can do is take some time to sit down, make a flexible plan, and write it out so you can refer to it later, knowing that the plan might change with your ever-changing grief journey. You have the right to celebrate the holidays differently this year. There is no rule that says you must always do everything the same way,” states Jessica Boff, Director of Bereavement Services at HopeWest.
Grief is a natural and personal process, and there is no right or wrong way to experience it. If you’re experiencing grief, it can be helpful to allow yourself to feel your emotions, whether it’s sadness, anger, guilt, or confusion. Rather than suppressing these emotions, healthy ways to express them can look like talking to a trusted friend, journaling, or engaging in creative activities.
Sit down and make a plan for how you want to approach the season. Consider which social engagements might bring you comfort, setting boundaries for yourself, and opting out of activities that may cause more distress. Remember, you have the right to celebrate the holidays in a way that feels comfortable for you, whether that is surrounding yourself with more people or with less.
Make time for yourself. Take moments to relax, unwind, and engage in activities that bring you comfort. Listen to music, treat yourself, or simply sit quietly and reminisce about your loved one. These moments of self-care can be simple yet extremely helpful during this challenging time.
Incorporating meaningful ways to honor your loved one’s memory can also bring peace and connection. Light a special candle in their memory, create an ornament with their picture, or prepare their favorite meal to share with family and friends. These gestures can serve as a reminder of the love you shared and keep their spirit alive.
Seeking support from others can also be beneficial. Connect with friends and family who understand your grief or join a grief support group where you can share your experiences with others who are on a similar journey.
If you’re struggling to cope with grief during the holidays, know that you’re not alone. HopeWest’s Bereavement Program offers comprehensive grief support services to anyone in the community, including individual and family counseling, monthly grief support groups, and educational workshops. To learn more about these low-to-no cost support services, please contact HopeWest’s Bereavement Program at (970) 257-2390, or visit our Grief Support Page where you’ll also find information about Handling the Holidays grief support groups.
Remember, the holidays can be a time of both grief and gratitude. Honor your loved one’s memory, allow yourself to feel your emotions, and seek support when needed. With time and care, you will likely find ways to navigate the holidays while carrying the memory of your loved one in your heart.